These days it is already considered polite to utter a mere “Hello” to any newbie: new neighbor, new colleague or even a new classmate.
Because of the evolution of humanity that gave birth to ever demanding, complicated and busier lifestyles the fact that there is and was another, though grander, but definitely more touching and noble way to acknowledge any newcomer is naturally forgotten.
People in the olden days and some people up to now who “can afford” to give dinners or dinner parties in their houses gave them not only to build their PR or connections. People in-the-know consider inviting anyone to such gatherings as a sign of good breeding. As there is always someone new somewhere, somehow dinner parties is a sure-fire way to take PR and goodbreeding and make them work as one.
Though things like dinner parties stem from the days when etiquette was an intricate part of one’s own home training and schooling inviting people to one’s party or merely to a meal or a snack in one’s own house or somewhere near is nowadays actually considered already a sign of manners: imparting a sense of welcome and basically showing good faith towards any newcomer’s arrival.
The senior or most prominent resident of the neighborhood, the senior or most prominent person in the workplace or even the most well-meaninged of a class of students still should take the initiative of welcoming the new arrival in however way that is accepted and is considered possible to do today.
The office worker can offer an invitation for a coffee, the most prominent member of the neighborhood can offer an invitation to a meal in his or her house and the student can say hello, invite the new arrival for a snack in the canteen or just plainly accompany him or her around the school as the newcomer still finds his or her way.
Any new arrival or newbie’s role is to always respond, whenever possible, with an affirmative to any invitation or greeting he or she gets.
In some instances when that new person who moves in the neighborhood is of the same prominence and/or age of the one that the neighborhood considers as their own it wouldn’t matter at all who would do the inviting. The one who is from the neighborhood can say, “I wish you would come to see me,” to which the ethically appropriate reply of the new arrival would be, “I will with pleasure.”
The other version of being ethical when the newcomer who is of the same age and/or prominence as the one the neighborhood has doing the inviting is, “I should like to come see you, if I may,” to which the answer of the resident person should ethically be, “I shall be delighted if you will.”
Etiquette usually has the hint of those days when life was simpler and was still beautifully less complicated. Much as no one can stop father time from improving and thereby complicating our lives good taste in manners should continually do the same: evolve with the times and remind us that life is still beautiful, though a little more complicated, than it used to be.
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